No one plans on committing the sin of adultery, but studies show that Up to 65% of husbands and 55% of wives will commit adultery by age 40. (Journal of Psychology & Christianity)
I'm sure you do not believe this could ever happen to you, but it's very easy to fall into this sin than you may think. Maybe it starts by watching a TV program, you know one of those comedies that show adultery as not that big a deal, you know like Desperate Housewives. Don't get me wrong, I love to watch a good comedy, just don't let yourself get desensitized to sin! Angela and I discuss these things when we watch movies that depict couples doing things that are not appropriate, such as adultery.
Well you started off watching this program and just laughing and laughing, and now maybe you've gotten to the place where it's just comical. But then something happens in your relationship and you've started considering stepping outside of your marriage for happiness. You're not happy and you start telling yourself that God wants you to be happy, so it cant be all wrong. You've met someone who makes you feel good about yourself, they make you happy! You may even start to think that God brought this person into your life to make you happy, this is ordained by God!
If you continue at this rate you will surely be out of this dead end marriage in no time! Let's see, just keep neglecting your spouse and yourself, keep spending time with this new special person in your life. Flirt whenever possible and start making excuses to why God approves of your actions. Wrong, Wrong, Wrong!
Proverbs 5:8-10 tells the story of a father explaining to his son how to avoid the adulteress!
8 Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house, 9 lest you give your best strength to others and your years to one who is cruel, 10 lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich another man's house.
Many of us believe that there is no sin committed until we physically do a sexual act! Not true! Jesus defined this in Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
This tells us that no physical thing needs to happen. Earlier I had said Angela and I have discussed things like adultery when watching movies. When we see someone acting inappropriate, we tell the other, "I consider that cheating"! We have a clear understanding of where the lines are and that they are NOT to be crossed!
If your spouse was to see a video of your day today, would you be proud of it? Or are there some things you would like to leave out. What if your spouse could know your thoughts, wow that might be a little scary, huh? Examine yourself, you know you better than anyone else!
Five tips to keep you focused!
· Keep a growing relationship with Christ.
· Never be alone with the wrong people.
· Never talk badly about your marriage with the wrong people.
· Surround yourself with strong marriages.
· Avoid inappropriate places and situations.
· Never be alone with the wrong people.
· Never talk badly about your marriage with the wrong people.
· Surround yourself with strong marriages.
· Avoid inappropriate places and situations.
It's time to invest in your marriage! Why would you want to invest in anything else. Here's a new saying for you - When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it's time to water your grass! I'm just Sayin!
Proverbs 5:18-20 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. 20 Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife?
Why be captivated by an adulteress? Wow! The word Captivated from the Hebrew means to be ravished, captivated, enraptured, intoxicated, consumed. You should NOT want this with any other than you very own spouse! I am Captivated and Intoxicated by my wife!
Five Easy Steps to Avoid the Sin of Adultery!
1) Get transparent. Share your feelings, not just your thoughts! Take time to discuss what you both consider to be cheating. If you have had some bad intentions, stop and sit down with your spouse and come clean! Tell them how you feel, and be willing to listen to how they feel as well.
2) Get alone. Very simple, no one else is there! Going to the movies is NOT alone! Go some place where it is just the two of you. Stop inviting everyone to hang out, get someone to watch the kids for a few hours.
3) Get spiritual. Pray together, go to church together, join a LifeGroup together, study the word of God together!
4) Get help. If you’re in trouble, get help! Don't be afraid to seek professional advice. After all this is the person you said you would love for ever, until death do us part! hmm
5) Get naked. If you need me to explain this part, you need more help than I thought. lol
I hope that these words will help to enrich your life! Take time to work on your marriage and it WILL work out!
Loved this message, Al. Speaking truth on a touchy subject. Well done.
ReplyDeleteI must say wow.. Awesome message... without sarcasm I would say that you have hit the nail on the head with this subject... Way to go..
ReplyDeleteThanks for this, Awesome is the word of God!
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